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The Story of Grem and Acer

WhereRUThey were cars.

Two lemons to be exact. Two lemons of little note. Exactly the way the two of them wanted it. For the most part…

“What do I care?” Grem whined in his shrill voice. “It’s better off they never notice us. We aren’t supposed to be noticed, remember?”

“You’re always so dramatic,” complained Acer. “I’m bored and this is getting old. Nobody ever notices us anyways.” And so went the argument they were having once again, an argument they seemingly had almost every single day. If it was up to Grem they would stay out of the spotlight and never have any fun, but Acer wanted more. Acer wanted a life that was more than just hiding. They were always hiding! Hiding as if they were criminals.

The two of them actually being criminals was not the point, thought Acer.

“How about we just test the waters and see what’s out there?” asked Acer.

“That’s not our life. That’s not who we are,” stated Grem as if this was absolute.

“The little one’s noticed us, you know?” Acer said with a nervous, sidelong glance.

“I know,” grumbled Grem in frustration. “He’s had his on eye us for a while now. We have to watch out for that one.”

Much to Acer’s delight, it didn’t take long for Grem’s suspicions to prove true. Before either of them knew what was happening, they found themselves pulled directly into the spotlight.

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Posted by on October 15, 2014 in Brad the Dad, Dads Round Table

 

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Hockey Dad Tries out for Baseball Dad

BaseballBenchThe pace of baseball is completely foreign to me, the amount of rules stresses me out and my childhood memories of the game are less than glamorous.

But it’s not about me, is it?

It’s about my 6-year-old son who practically floats with excitement just being on the same field as all of his friends. The faces are even mostly the same, they are my hockey kids, only with mitts on their hands and caps on their heads. Their smiles just as I remember them from underneath their helmets. It’s becoming (painfully) clear to me that the sport itself is secondary to my little athlete and is more about playing with his friends.

So here I am, a hockey dad, and my son is playing baseball. Can I be a baseball dad too?

I don’t know the answer to that question yet, but you bet I’m going to try. It’s time that I put my own baseball cap on and get serious about this sport that is in my blood. You see, my grandfather used to scout for the Philadelphia Phillies and wrote a local sports column (I got the writing bug from him at least) called, Strictly Local. So, no more sitting idly by on the sidelines, it’s time for this hockey dad to shower his knowledge upon his son from the sidelines and maybe even teach these baseball coaches a thing or two in the process.

“Keep those knees bent, son. Head up and always be ready.”

Okay, that wasn’t so bad. I think it was even correct. Sure those same things apply in hockey, but nobody needs to know that.

“Great job! Way to swing that stick, er, bat.”

I need to focus a little harder here.

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Posted by on April 15, 2014 in Brad the Dad, Dads Round Table

 

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Spring Training Rules with my Boys

sneakfave“I’m here, guys!”

As if we were unaware of his approach, his feet pretty much rumble the earth.

The 6-year-old and I panted with exertion and took a break from our soccer game to welcomeback the one we like to call, Freight Train. The game started out fine and with all of us playing together, but it didn’t take long for the feisty 3-year-old to take offense to being reminded about not putting his hands on the ball and quickly retreat inside to complain to mommy.

We were both happy when he returned.

He’ll get it eventually, and until then I’ll continue to remind him of the rules, but nor can I ignore the fact that his life has been defined by scratching and clawing for his own in this world and using his hands achieves exactly that by somewhat leveling the playing field with his bigger, faster brother. An older brother who lived a life uncontested for 3 years, a life completely unfamiliar to our 3-year-old. But on the field, their worlds become one and the rules apply equally.

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Posted by on April 9, 2014 in Brad the Dad, Dads Round Table

 

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The Role of Youth Sports in Raising Children

SoccerShotI can’t say enough about what being active in youth sports is doing for our son.

Still a freshly minted 6-year-old, our oldest recently faced his biggest athletic workload yet with soccer and hockey starting at the same time. Being new to the scene, my wife and I had concerns over whether or not he could handle playing two sports at once. Just last year we made a big decision to send him to kindergarten despite just making the cut-off age and thus the youngest kid in his class (My Kindergarten Son: An Academic Red Shirt), this year we had to decide if we should challenge him further by doubling down on sports.

As with any decision we make, my wife and I always want to do what we believe is best for him while also keeping in mind what he wants to do. We didn’t say, “You’re playing two sports because we’re those crazy parents and sick of all this free time we have on the weekends to chill out and would rather rush you around from field to rink and back again.”

No, that’s not how it went at all.

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Posted by on November 7, 2013 in Brad the Dad, Dads Round Table

 

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So Far Gone

SoFarGone5Who would have ever thought that I could feel this way about something?  About someone.

Who could have ever known I would be so far gone this soon?

I look at him…and time just slows.  It’s everything everyone said it would be.  It’s a feeling, it’s that feeling, you’ll only know once you have a child.

My oldest son is me.  He looks like my wife, but he is me.

Sometimes it takes looking at pictures of him while he is asleep upstairs to fully appreciate it all and take the whole thing in.

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Posted by on September 19, 2013 in Brad the Dad, Dads Round Table

 

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Fostering Independent Play in Children

IndPlayIf my hunch is correct, this is an area that many of us struggle with these days.  I know my wife and I struggle with it and many of our friends express the same frustrations.

A toy room full of a toys and backyard full of the same and yet our boys constantly want one thing — us.

Somewhere along the line, “Be home when the street lights come on” and “Get lost!” became extinct.  Previous generations simply believed that kids did not belong underfoot.   Kids belonged out.  Most everyone reading this would agree that when we were growing up the world was our oyster and we were expected to explore every nook and cranny until it was time for dinner, and in the summer months, again after dinner.

But somewhere between the Internet and 24/7 news coverage the world became a very scary place.

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Posted by on September 16, 2013 in Brad the Dad, Dads Round Table

 

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Trying to Keep the Hustle in Check

SunsetAvalonVacation, and the days immediately following, are perfect for reflection.

Upon returning from a week and a half vacation last month, with nearly 95% separation from work, I was extremely relaxed and my mind as clear as it’s been in a long time.  Yet, leading up to this vacation, I was as stressed out and overwhelmed as I’ve ever been.  Work exploded after (too) many years of being in a recession and home life was as it always is with two active boys and a house/property to take care of — fun, but not easy.  Not by a long shot.

In short, I needed a vacation bad.

The problem I was having and that needed correcting, as I see now with my newly, clear mind, was that I was in an endless cycle that was constantly feeding itself.  Work stress and the challenges of life, and the attention they commanded, were causing me to spend my remaining energy on coping, not advancing.

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Posted by on September 12, 2013 in Brad the Dad, Dads Round Table

 

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